Ahh what a great holiday weekend it was, we played games, saw family (we were iced out from seeing my mom, but were able to get together with some of Jayme’s family still.) It was a great time and I could have not asked for much more excitement. We had all day Monday to lounge around and just be lazy. We did normal couple-ly things and were headed to bed for one last sleep before I headed back to work.

Here is where the title for the post comes from. Jayme hates when cold air “rushes” <-(her word not mine) into the bed when I roll over or move my legs. it is a point of contention most nights, but last night was the last straw, she told me to “stop it” and after struggling to get my phone to charge, I took my half of the blankets and sheet, took them from the bed and gave them to her. I went out into the living room, snagged a blanket and tried to return to sleep in our bed. I was allowed free movement in this new blanketed setting, I could move my legs spin to my hearts content, it felt great. At first. I slept terribly, without having the bigger warmer blankets I was chilled and could not fall asleep for long, in addition my bed-space was smaller due to the huge lump of my wood-be blankets piled between us. I woke today exhausted and wanting nothing more then to be back under the blankets I belong in.

Jayme welcomed me back, clearly felt bad for her part, and I did too. We were both so tired we never talked about it, maybe we will tonight, but it doesn’t matter, cause I know how the conversation will go. I will say I am sorry, she will too, we will talk through the problem and do our best to understand each other. Not because I can see the future, but because that is how we solve problems. words, thoughtfulness, and empathy.

In a small way this blanket situation is much like what it is like to be in a relationship. It is cozy and comfortable together, but it also comes with restrictions, rules if you will. learning to work together through them helps to prevent problems from arising. You can go it alone, try and do your own thing (in the context of the relationship) but you will be missing the warm and soothing love that comes from sharing in your struggle and solving it together.

One thing I know for sure, I will not be leaving that warm comforter for anything again.