So I was preparing to write a new post today, but this old title popped up. I have a specific story that goes with it that I will share, but it fits so well with my thoughts last night that I think a little additional information should be added.

The original story was about the night I went to trivia alone. Jayme was meeting some friends for HH and I was going to stay at home and just relax, but I had a desire to play trivia (we go most Thursdays). Well I could not convince anyone to join on such short notice, so I went to play alone. Jayme texted me halfway through that she was leaving soon, I filled her in on where I was and she was debating coming to sit with me, but there would be so little time for her there that it was not really worth it. So I was finishing up with a question and I feel a tap on my shoulder and it was my babe in all her beauty. Of course I wanted her to come, but I couldn’t just tell her that. I wanted her to want to be there.

Clearly this was not the most convenient or “worth it” situation, but she did it for me, she showed up, partly because, that is what she does, she puts importance on me and how I feel. It is something I will cherish forever, but also something I often forget. I have not had many situations in relationships where I have felt the tender caring that Jayme provides all the time. and much like this situation, last night Jayme helped to remind me of this trait of hers.

I was feeling kinda down for a number of reasons, but partly my birthday plans were not coming together as I would have wanted. I am to blame really, I never organized soon enough and it is a hard time of the year to begin with. So I was struggling with it. She told me just to do exactly what I wanted and not think about what others would want. So she pushed me to plan a night with the guys; whiskey, games, gambling, the whole thing. It felt good to have her give up our place to host the guys and just be completely selfless. She said “it is your birthday, do what you want”. And in the end, I intend to. I canceled the guys get-together this morning, found a great restaurant with a good happy hour and will go for a fine drink and amazing meal with my babe. What I want, and have always wanted is her, to show her how much I appreciate the woman who showed up.