The title to this post is based off that commonly said phrase when asking about payments. exchange the word love for cash, check, or credit and the sentence might make more sense to the rest of the world. And like 99% of people out there, Jayme and I also struggle with having enough to do what we like and get through life.

The last few days have really accentuate this to me, with more bills coming due, the uncertainty of our job prospects, and the desire to “keep up with the Jones'” has shown me how tight things really are. and while our bank account might be low on monetary funds, there is one place where we are beyond rich.

Our love account is full and growing all the time. There is such a fierce dedication to making sure that we always have love to draw on that our funds grow each and every day.  While we might not be able to pay any student loans or buy groceries with it, but Love keeps us together. Money is stressful, not knowing if you can afford to pay all your bills, or if the mountain of debt in front of you will ever be conquered. Those things can put a rift in a relationship and tear apart the trust and love that was developed. But with Jayme and me, it pulls us closer together. We rely on each other and pull from the others strengths to get through the tough times. It is the huge stack of love bucks we have that remind us that everything is going to be alright.

That is what I think is so unique about my future bride and me, no matter what we defend each other, we defend the “us” before the “me”. When the time calls our duty is to each other first and everyone else second. By having this belief and structure, we never feel the need to live up to our own ideas of what we need to do for the other. We love simply and completely. I used to think that I needed to provide this life for Jayme that was to par with how she made me feel inside (who was I kidding I didn’t have personal dolphin butler money). I struggled with being good enough, or deserving of her love. But she showed me what it was she desired, and thankfully loving my best friend comes easy.

So while we work on our financial goals and building a comfortable living someday, we will pay for our life with love and be happier then ever.

I know I used this picture before, but it is just so damn cute!

 

What another fun weekend, it was such a great time! so I will start with the specifics before the Maple (if you forgot what maple is, check back here for a review). This weekend was a few things, starting Thursday my older bro moved into his new house, and, depending how you look at it, I was fortunate enough to work and miss the whole unloading and lifting things part. Jayme however found herself there all day long without me. Lifting, moving, carrying, sweating. All with my family (mostly my Dad). I showed up late and carried the last few things in and helped Adam change his brakes.

So this was supposed to be our Father’s Day as well since dad was going to be gone for Sunday. So as we were working on the car he mentioned that “Jayme is a real trooper, she did good work today”. I acknowledge the comment and went on working.

The rest of the weekend had us on a bike and brew around Minneapolis (see sweet America garb) Being tired me and Jayme left early, ate chipotle and took a two hour nap. The Next day was brunch with her family and watching movies. But  the moment that struck me the most was when on the way to visit Jayme’s parents, I called my dad to wish him a happy Father’s Day. We talked small talk and then I mentioned where we were headed and dad said some of the most important words to me I have ever heard. .

So unlike the typical blog post these words are actually life changing, well at least for me.

He interrupted me and said, “She is an amazing girl, she has a good head on her shoulders.” he went on to discuss how she just jumps right in to help, that she is a great person and that he is happy that I found her. I said thank you and that it meant a lot to me. He continued to gush about how she made the whole move bearable and that she really is amazing.

Whoa. that is what I was thinking. My dad, has never said anything like that to me before. Sure he would talk about wanting me to be happy, or that he was proud of me, but never anything about the person I was with, and now he is dropping some huge love/truth bombs on the situation. I didn’t need my dad to say these things for me to know that she is all of that and much more, but that type of validation and assurance from a man I look up to…. well that is something that cannot be expressed in words.

To me, this just speaks volumes about the woman Jayme is, the kind and unrelenting soul who gives as much as she can and then gives beyond that. Her light hearted approach to problems, her calm demeanor, her, well her everything. She is the one I want forever.

So on Father’s Day, the man  who raised me gave me big words and made me proud of who I am and more importantly who will be my side from here forward.

 

She passed!!! This last weekend my babe took her RD test to town! She is now a Registered Dietitian and ready to take the world by storm. We celebrated with an evening full of laughter, drinks, good food, and amazing conversation. There is something special about having a woman who is so successful. She is more then just a pretty face (which she also has) but she is beyond smart and determined to be her best each and everyday. I love that about her. Not only does she show that kind of dedication to her future work and schooling, but she does it for our relationship as well. she sees us as something that requires effort and work. Not because we are in a rough patch or that we fight or disagree, but because we both want more then just a relationship, we want to have something special, Something that shows the world that love can be unbreakable. So we stay the course, commit to each other, our whole selves, and live for each other no matter what.

Along with those happy emotions we were also struck with sadness after finding out about the shooting in Orlando and the emergency illness of Jayme’s cousin. as the world mourns the loss of so many due to senseless violence we sat last night in an ICU waiting room just baffled by the tragic news of the boy who was fine one day and on a ventilator the next. Things are stable right now with him and we are praying for his continued improvement and the sanity and comfort of his family. It is events like this that make us reevaluate the important things in life and it also brings our mortality to the forefront. This could happen to anyone, or even worse at anytime. I could lose the love of my life before she even gets a chance to know about my plans for our engagement, the seriousness of our love and the intensity to which I cherish her. Losing Jayme would feel like the deepest pain and a path I do not want to go down, but just remembering that the possibility of it being real makes my stomach sink.

Nothing in life is forever and we all will die someday, but for today and every day that follows I will make sure that Jayme is at the center of my mind, my body, and my heart. For she is what provides meaning to existence, light to the day and hope for the future.